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Commitment
Are you committed to being the best father, mother, husband, or wife you can be? What does it mean to be a committed father, mother, husband, or wife? Simply it means that you have made a decision to do whatever it takes to be a great parent or spouse! You are committed to family! Years ago a mentor of mine described it this way. Draw a square, put yourself and your family in the square. Are there any exit doors? Absolutely not! There is no out, so you have got to do what it takes to have a successful family.
When you do not have an exit door on your marriage square, you do what it takes to make your marriage work. If you do not have an exit door on your family square, you do what it takes to have a strong family. Of course the room must have oxygen! Love provides the oxygen in the room. The more unconditional love, the more oxygen. The more oxygen, the more life!
CORE Family Resources has decided to change the C in CORE to commitment. It makes more sense to begin with what it takes for all families to be successful. Are you committed to your marriage? Are you committed to your family? If you need some inspiration or an adjustment, go to the contact page, fill out, and we will get back to you ASAP!
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CORE Family Resources is a ministry to and for families. Our purpose is to build strong families through life coaching, speaking, and writing. CORE is an acronym for Centered, Open, Relational, and Empowering.
Centered – what is at the center of your life? What ever is at the center of your life, effects everything. If you are Christ centered that means “Christ is in you.” cf Colossians 1:27-29 Being Christ centered is the opposite of being self-centered. Instead of thinking of ourselves, we think of others.
Open – Being open is related to being open to change or open minded. Are you open to the Holy Spirit and the Word of God? Hebrews 4:12 posits: “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”
Relational – Being relational, when you are Centered and Open, is best exemplified by Matthew 22:37-39: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all of your soul, and mind………”And, love your neighbor as yourself.”
Empowering – Empowering others is what we are called to do in many areas of life including our family. As parents our goal is for our children to be empowered to live the life they were called to live.
Centered, Open, Relational, Empowering is the heart of CORE Family Resources.
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November is National Adoption Month – Please have Empathy before Celebration
I’ll let you in on a secret, adoption is tough, it’s messy, and it’s something that should never happen! However, it is necessary because life is tough, messy, and people do things that should never happen. In a perfect world, parent’s don’t die, become addicted to drugs, hate their children and the idea of being a parent, and many other reasons that contribute to our world being full of orphans.
Before you say, “Oh how wonderful,” acknowledge that adoption = loss. Before you say, “It must be wonderful to be chosen,” realize that most children would rather have their birth parents than being adopted. Each adoptee is different, however, most adoptees cringe when they hear “chosen.” Also, be careful before you use a biblical reference to adoption to equate modern-day adoption. And especially don’t say, “Jesus was adopted.” That will get a Christian adoptee really fired up. When it comes to adoption in Scripture, there is more eisegesis than exegesis!
Now like all people, each adoptee is different. Circumstances, age at the time of foster/adoption, personality, etc., will cause different reactions. However, before you make heroes out of the adoptive parents (which most don’t want), consider the pain of the children, the birth mother and possibly father, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. Acknowledge that with every adoption, there is loss!
Marriage Coaching
Has your marriage lost the passion it once had? You might even consider your relationship stale. You can do something about it! Marriage Coaching may be just for you! Your CORE Marriage Coach will give you the tools you need to get your marriage back on track. This is not therapy. The focus is not on your past, it is on your present and future. For more information contact me on this website or call 281.250.3933
“Feeling Good”
Are you familiar with Dr. David Burns work, “Feeling Good”? Today, I was reminded of his book, and how it made a difference in my life years ago. His work has changed thousand and possibly millions of lives. His approach is based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. You may be familiar with his list of ways we have distorted thinking. They are listed in the following article:
https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/cognitive-distortions/.
His work can be used for Cognitive Behavioral Coaching if a person is not moderately or severely depressed. The beginning of the book has the Beck’s Depression Inventory so you can take the inventory to decide if you need a coach or a therapist.
Coaching is more to help clients get rid of what Zig Ziglar called, “stinking thinking.” For more information on coaching, send me a message. It may change your life!
Recovery from Childhood Abuse
The ASCA Recovery Framework is a 3 stage model for healing containing 21 steps.
The stages and steps are:
Stage 1 – Remembering
I am in a breakthrough crisis, having gained some sense of my abuse.
I have determined that I was physically, sexually or emotionally abused as a child.
I have made a commitment to recovery from my childhood abuse.
I shall re-experience each set of memories as they surface in my mind.
I accept that I was powerless over my abusers’ actions which holds them responsible.
I can respect my shame and anger as a consequence of my abuse but shall try not to turn it against myself or others.
I can sense my inner child whose efforts to survive now can be appreciated.
Stage 2 – Mourning
I have made an inventory of the problem areas in my adult life.
I have identified the parts of myself connected to self-sabotage.
I can control my anger and find healthy outlets for my aggression.
I can identify faulty beliefs and distorted perceptions in myself and others.
I am facing my shame and developing self-compassion.
I accept that I have the right to be who I want to be and live the way I want to live.
I am able to grieve my childhood and mourn the loss of those who failed me.
Stage 3 – Healing
I am entitled to take the initiative to share in life’s riches.
I am strengthening the healthy parts of myself, adding to my self-esteem.
I can make necessary changes in my behavior and relationships at home and work.
I have resolved the abuse with my offenders to the extent that is acceptable to me.
I hold my own meaning about the abuse that releases me from the legacy of the past.
I see myself as a thriver in all aspects of life – love, work, parenting, and play.
I am resolved in the reunion of my new self and eternal soul.
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